I've been in this relationship for over 3 yrs now, my problem is this, I love this girl soo much and I know she loves me too, when I was in school, each time she visits, she always buy all sort of gift and provisions for me, she single handedly celebrated my birthday for me 3yrs ago, she is not working and I'm sure my people are better than her's but it bafels me how she gets money cuz she is in school too.
To cut the whole story short I lost my Dad and with no hope of continuing with school cuz I'm the first and have 3 younger ones which I can't leave for my mum alone including myself, I have to drop out. I found work here in Abuja which pays me very well, so with that I was able to take care of my junior ones even my girl friend, I was in love with her and she with me, early this year, I lost my job and things have been so difficult for me, I went to visit my girl in school I spent 3 days with her, a lot of her friends knows about me, I also introduce her to some of my friend in there school.. After I went back this girl sent 15'k for me to use and sustain myself till I find a job.. Now my problem is this, I've found out that this girl is cheating on me not just with one, each time I call her at night its either she is drinking with her friends or she won't pick my call until around 11 in the nite when she will call back to give excuses, on one occasion she was making love and mistakenly pick my call without knowing and I was hearing their noise, when she came back she called to tell me that she left her phone where she was charging it.
I love this girl so much and she is everything I've ever dream of, she calls me most of the time and cries that she misses me a lot which I believe, we are in love no doubt but I just don't understand her actions anymore, just last week one of my friends in their schools told me that he has been seeing my girl with one of my friend which happen to be the guy I introduced my girl to.. I love this girl and I'm verry sure she is cheating on me.. I just don't know what to do. Help
I have always said it that being broke and love don't go together... guys in the house, always put all effort to stand on your feet financially and other wise first before thinking of falling in love... if u are in love and u can't take care of your woman, her heart can still be with u but her body will be shared between u and guys that has d cash to meet her needs... guy am not blaming the girl, it may not be from her heart, she loves you but u bought need financial help that's y she is doing what she is doing!
ReplyDeleteLove Love Love!!! Even if u satisfy her needs,, a cheat is a cheat!!! As a poor dude,,, talk to her abt it, if she doesn't stop which will be the case, play along with her or leave her! u can play along since you have nothing to loose!
ReplyDeleteOga its simple. She loves u but u can't take care of her. She wudnt starve 2 death bcos she loves u wen she can use her body 2 feed. I have a sex mate dat is like dat. So either u take her 4 who she is or leave her alone 2 focus on her job.
ReplyDeleteShe luvs u more than every other guys she 'might' be dating. She's more committed to u & ready to make life easy for u wt all she can do but try to peaceably manage the situation. Call her, talk to her not to be doing somtn silly that will affect her life becoz of u. Manage d situation wt her peaceably bcoz even though she's messing around but she's doing it 'partly' for u. Don't quit d relationship bcoz of that. U may regret it later but u can pull her out of such games by managing whateva both of u are having
ReplyDeleteOga , why don't u enjoy her generousity while it lasts and quit complaining ? Just Inhale , Exhale and then light up ur #weed and smoke ur worries away . .
ReplyDeleteUr very sure, is not like u have caught her in d act red handed, if u have a problem with her sending cash to u, then stop collecting n ask her Where she get Ger money from n How sure r u dat she was the one making those noises on the phone, if u really love her u need to stop listening to them say, Co's y will that boy call u to tell u he sees ur girl with ur friend, if ur so worried n convince she's cheating then dump her na n rest
ReplyDeleteHmm. Dis is a case indeed. 1 thing i knw is dat, no mata d runs n shady dealing a girl involves in, all ladies must definitely settle 4 a guy with attention, affection n compassion., all these sum up d word "COMPANIONSHIP". She loves u but she doesnt wanna depend on u, so she's tryin 2 do her part 4 d relatnshp though in d wrong way. She has affection 4 u nt 2 lose u but i cant say if u're d only 1 she does dat 4 cuz sm1 who gud is bn done 4 in a gr8 way will always think he/she is best 4 it. Communication is evrything bro, have a honest, polite n sincere emotional talk with her abt ur emotions concernin d relatnshp. Avoid any form of argument. Bt if smthing bad comes out of it, dnt fret, d world has nt ended. 1 main thing abt luv is its weak n predictable if u dnt av a self luv foundation, ur happiness will b in d hands of who u luv. What den happens wen she leaves u, u go back 2 d saddist u were. Dear, God is ur muscle. Failure isnt wen u failed or made mistake, its wen u give up on urself. Talk with her.!
ReplyDeleteHow do you know that she cheats on you. Before accusing her make sure it's correct. No doubt that she loves you dearly. Try to investigate more about this and if it's true then you have to ask her why. If you can't take it forget about her no matter what ever she does for you
ReplyDeleteAs hard and bitter as this truth might be,u guys dont have a future together....i dont understand that kind of life ooo!!!!...cos evn if u eventually marry her,u will neva be able to get ova her past....and since she is used to this life,she will neva be able to stop it since she is sooo used to it,no matter how rich u might turn out to be...just pray that God lead u aright'cos this issue is a very delicate one.
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