Precious Thoughts and concerns of a Single Mother on Relationships

Being a single mom is a bit like being an acrobat walking a tightrope…you have to be able to balance it all or everything falls down. For single mom’s it’s the constant division of time and attention between work, home, children, family…and personal life. It can all seem extremely overwhelming and at times even impossible.
A major challenge for nearly every single mom centers on romance and dating. On top of the ever-present balancing act, a single mom must always be mindful of the people she brings into her children’s lives. For many, divorce and shared parenting are constant reminders of just how a broken relationship can impact a child’s life. Overprotective for a reason, a single mom is not only on the lookout for the right person for herself…but also the perfect parent for her children.
…and how exactly does she find such a person?
First…she takes a deep breath and reminds herself that in good time all things are possible. Being a single mom does not mean that she must sit on the sidelines and watch her girlfriends who have yet to enjoy motherhood find that perfect match. She must remind herself that the perfect match…will understand that she and her children are a package deal.
Next…she must realize it’s a process and a causal stroll instead of a sprint. A single mom knows that even though that first date may seem so wonderful…that doesn’t mean that date #2 is dinner and a movie with the kids. In fact, there may need to be a long string of successful dates until the kids meet that potential great love. Date #1 may be the interview but the following dates serve as a “probationary period” to really evaluate this person. Then, if all goes well…introductions can be made.
Finally…she should make it a priority to share her thoughts and talk to her perspective love about her concerns and reservations. Let them know upfront that sheis protective with good reasons and then watch how they respond. A potential mate should understand and accept such concerns and help her navigate around them. This is an excellent opportunity for the single mom to really get to know this new person in her life.
And…with a little patience and perseverance…a single mom can enjoy love on her terms as part of her very well-balanced life.

Lisa Kinser