1. Lube is your friend.
Lube. For the love of god, don't be afraid to buy lube. It will make that one position soooooo much better.
2. Always be honest with your intentions before you bang.
Never lie to get sex. If you want a casual thing, be honest and say so. Maybe they say yes, maybe they say no. Don't make someone believe or tell them you like them more than you do. It's just wrong and you will feel like crap too when you break their heart.
3. Sometimes…it won't be great.
Not everyone you have sex with will be good at handling your penis. Some will scrape it with their teeth, chafe it with insanely bad hand jobs, or make it bend at weird angles when you're doing the deed. Speak up, or you'll have a sore penis.
4. Baby oil does not belong near your genitals.
Never use baby lotion as lube. It will feel good at first but holy moly it will burn after!!!!
5. She should finish first, tbh.
It's not about you, take care of her first and you'll get yours…
6. Masturbate all the damn time.
MASTURBATE! As much as humanly possible. Not only do you get to know your body on a whole new level, you may be saving yourself from a one-night stand that you'd regret.
7. Sex doesn't look or feel like it does on screen, so don't judge yourself against that standard.
Movie sex (or porn sex) and real sex have very little in common. Most of what you see on screen is either not very plausible in real life or not very enjoyable.
8. It's OK to be into some weird stuff. You do you.
Don't be ashamed of what turns you on or gets you off and to ask for it. You deserve to enjoy yourself just as much as the other person.
9. Take the time to figure out where everything is.
The vagina hole is lower than you think it is.
10. Queefs, cramps, weird. smells…yeah, it all happens. Go with it.
Don't get mortified; it's not worth it. Sometimes embarrassing or silly things happen. Enjoy the ridiculousness of it. Usually the other person wants to laugh about it WITH you because they think it's cute and they like you even more for it.
11. Maybe don't expect earth-shattering orgasms right out of the gate.
You won't orgasm your first time... probably not on your second, third, fourth, or fifth either.
12. Your number means nothing.
To not sweat 'the number.' I was taught to hold a lot of pride in staying abstinent. The first time I had sex I was raped, and if I continued to put my virginty or the number of guys I've slept with on that high of a pedestal getting over being raped would be impossible. Be responsible, wear protection, have fun, and above all remember that you are more than who you lost your virginity to or the number of men you've slept with.
13. Peeing after sex is IMPORTANT for anyone with a vagina.
Always pee after. ALWAYS. UTIs are not fun.
14. So is general down-there cleanliness.
Oh gosh, wash yourself. I could have saved myself from countless UTIs had we washed up before/after down there.
15. Btw, you look fucking hot.
Don't be so shy or too conscious about your body. You're beautiful and he is dying to see your naked body. Enjoy yourself! He thinks you look hot, that's why he is there
naked with you. OWN IT!!!!
16. Orgasms aren't the gold standard of satisfaction.
Just because the other person didn't orgasm, doesn't mean
they didn't have fun.
17. Drunk sex isn't usually good sex.
Don't SEX while under the influence! It's sloppy and all over the place and in the end isn't even that much fun if it isn't with someone you care about.
18. Condoms. ALL OF THE CONDOMS.
Use a condom!! Every time!!!!!!! The ribbed ones are quite nice.
19. Seriously, always have multiple condoms.
Change condoms between anal and vaginal sex... Don't use the same one especially when you go back from anal to vaginal sex.
20. Your body should be treated with respect.
If he doesn't like/insults your vulva, get out of there.
21. Wish they would move a little to the left? Say that.
It's OK and it can even be fun and sexy to tell/help someone figure out what your body likes. You can't just
expect people to be able to know what is an effective way to touch you, because every body is different.
22. Consent is nonnegotiable.
You know all that stuff about consent? Yeah, well, it's real, not just a funny meme.
23. Don't want to do something? That's fine, just say so.
Blow jobs are not mandatory! You are under NO obligation to give them. Be in control of your sexual experience!
24. You might be having sex with the wrong sex.
You're a lesbian. Stop sleeping with guys, it won't get better.
25. Fake orgasms help no one.
Stop. Faking. Orgasms.
26. Losing your virginity is not a race.
Don't be stressed out if you're 'older' and haven't had sex yet. Focus on being your best self and you'll attract the people you really want to be with.
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