Good day RMI9ja and Naija Village. Admin pls conceal my ID.
I would love to hear from the men especially on what I want to ask to know if I'm the one who is being stubborn.
My boyfriend sends me errands as if I'm a housemaid. He likes taking snacks and mineral after dinner most times and he would send me out at nite to get them for him at nearby shops. He sends me back to return and get another if the first one I brought isn't his choice and he could send me back to change a particular thing for him at nite up to 4 times without him seeing anything wrong in it. And this time I'm talking about is 9-10pm or even latter than that. He will be inside and the ask me to go buy fuel and put on generator. Anytime I refuse any of these errands hell is always let loose on me telling me I won't make a good wife.
I have sat him down severally to make him understand there are certain things a man does at home e.g to put on gen, that's not a woman's responsibility except the man is not around or maybe very ill. And also, sending me errands like a maid especially at nite. This issues has caused a very big misunderstanding between us ever since I stopped running those errands cos I was no longer finding it funny. All the errands he asks me to run within the house, I don't complain just that of going out especially when he rejects a particular thing severally.
So please, am I being stubborn and is it right for a man to send his girl errands in such manner and time? And also the generator thing?
Thanks
you are cohabiting, Abi?
ReplyDeletedon't worry dear. you are just paying your own share of the rent .
he still loves you. oh??
Now wey rapists full everywhere, a young girl runs out to buy biscuits for a boyfriend at night. this is called love.
a guy is lying down and the weaker vessel goes out to start generator with all her strength. truly, the fire of love will never leave you.
she has to go back to change biscuits for him.
even your father can't do that to you.
you wanted to live free of charge in a man's house, Abi? it's only a maid, a relative or a wife that live everyday in a man's house. since you have packed your things to live in Rome, you have to act like the Romans.
you are not his wife and you are not related to him. so maybe he thinks you are his maid.
or you think having sex whenever he demands is enough for the free house? lol.
there is no free lunch. madam of the house, you have to pay your dues.
receive sense
dear poster your boyfriend is immature, you should ask him, AM I YOUR WIFE YET??? such nonsense get me pissed off, your boyfriend wil be treating you like a slave in the relationship due too you claim to love him, young woman, if he thinks he is man enough and mature why can't he go and pay your bride price and see your parent for neccessary things required, you can just sit down and your boyfriend treating you like a piece of trash, even you have told him about such behaviour, he is blaming you for been not a wife material. . .my dear I understands how you feel okay, I want to make this clear in a relationship, there must be a weaker vessel who is going to bow to the another, you just have to endure make him understand its a relationship, you deserve to be respected and be treated like a queen, if such horrible things persist, then QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP.
ReplyDeleteyour bf is a dumb lazy ass. does he work? I guess he doesn't cos he can't even get up to go put on the gen not to talk of waking up in d morning to prepare for work. but you see you? you no get sense. even if u no get ur own apartment, ur papa house dey chase you? why live with a man I'm sure doesn't know ur parents? even my papa no dey send us errands comot for night. is he your husband? when he becomes your husband trust me u will be carrying him on ur back to the bathroom. if say I see u face to face I for spank you well well.
ReplyDeleteThat guy is not compatible with me, I will just fling him like trash .. and sista that kind of husband is called God deliver Me from all evil and lead us not into temptation" his name is God Forbid!!!
ReplyDeleteHi dear,
ReplyDeleteIts obvious you've been staying with him for quite a while, why won't he send you errands when you've lost your self respect as a lady and you've given yourself out at the least affordable price.
Should he jilt you at the end of the day, you'll come back here telling us you'd given your all to him.
How could he appreciate you with you stooping so low?
Dear Sister, wetin you no fit take when you are rich, you have to start rejecting it when you are poor. What would be his own duties? To sit down and eat? You are just a Girlfriend for God sake! Let him employ housemaid. You are in love doesn't mean you must loose your dignities. A man that don't appreciate his woman is a boy. So, is up to you! Tell him for once more and if he didn't change, you got to leave. Don't enslave yourself!
ReplyDeleteSend you to buy things for him at odd hours all nights? My questions is why are you living with him,i mean why are you wt him all nights? Dont you have a house? I dunno but you've gave him room to be used as a maid,living together when you're not supposed to,being always available wont let him value you or your presence...place some respect on yourself by leaving his house,let him miss u,ur present,then he'll value you.
ReplyDeleteAnd the ans to ur question: he's not to send u up n down like you're a maid,even there are restrictions to wat maid does or tym they're sent on errands, stand tall n reject that behaviour now,if he sees that as not being a wife material, tell him the material in him cant sew a G.string either, if the relationship crashes on this then so be it! You're not a maid, you're a wife,a good thing to be cherished, your bf doesn't need you,doesn't need a maid/woman but a robot wt remote who will serve him where he sits like #aro_khese (hes lame).
My dear u r blessed,Gods best so don't let any guy maltreat u maybe because he pays little of ur bills. he should get a maid and learn to respect women in General cos i know he got sisters. KARMA still exist. There are better guys out there so cut his crap and face him like a woman. He's not ur God and let him know ur destiny is not in his MISERABLE hands. WE DESERVE THE BEST
ReplyDeleteU are stubborn, cos u disobeyed ur parents, brothers, elders, and most especially God to go and alive with a man who is not ur husband. I know ur complaints have not finished cos i know he will be forcing u to have sex with him even wen u are seriously ill. My dearie if u are doing all this things as a gul friend pls what will u do as a wife I NEED TO kNOWOOO
ReplyDeleteAccording to this post,it sound as if u are living with him.if u are living with him...my question is...y should u be living with ur boyfriend? #rubbish...he will soon ask u to be bathing him and also to be giving him piggy back....#living-with-ur-boyfriend and yet maltreating u...and u are still asking for advice...I'm very sure that u run away and elope with him...don't u have parent or family? i wonder may be its lack of home training or u are just a wayward lady.....I'm an orphan and I dont have a really good family but I endured and am still enduring living under a family,not really happy living there but I have to live there and achieve my dream and goals....boyfriend house should not be an option for u as far I'm concerned.... u know responsible ladies like me will tell u d fact and u dont want to hear that's y u needed ur advice most especially from men...but I'm sure responsible guys will tell u d truth.Sincerely a man should not treat his gf and most especially his wife like that but since u ain't his wife yet,I dont really blame him..#lobatan....My friend pls wise up and stop being a house maid to ur boyfriend in his apartment... if we even find out now,may be u ain't working and he's also not even financially bouyant.he can even be living in one room apartment...and living in one room apartment is not even secretly but exposed to all neighborhood that u are living with ur boyfriend...#justsaying-oo
ReplyDeleteApart from the fact that u spent too much time with him, u refuse to establish ur stand hence, ur self esteem has been battered..... I don't see him valuing you for a long time, better start thinking of ways to gain ur esteem back or u regret wasting ur time and maybe ur body on him....
ReplyDeleteU r not stubborn, u r just stupid. Pls leave dat guy's house now
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