Hi everyone, pls I need advice ASAP. I'm a widow of 25 years, lost my hubby withing one year of our marriage, now I decided to have a fling cause I started having sex in my dream that's how serious my urge was. I had sex with a friend of mine whom came to visit and could never believe something like that will happen, the next day he went back home, he stays in a different state, it turned into a relationship. I realised he's been inlove wit me for so long. A month after he came back with an engagement ring, I told him it was too early and he said he just wants to keep me so no man ll take me from him that he intend getting marriage married next year, I refused though but I don't know how I can let him know I feel nothing for him, I still love my late hubby very much and it's too early to start sharing his luv( died 2013). I feel how deep this guy is in love with me, how can I make this guy realise he's moving too fast and I dont intend to get married for now?
Honestly we ladies like putting ourselves in bondage,u are so free to marry anybody so far the other partner is died,the Holy books confirms that,u still been in love with a dead man at the age of 25,my dear u need to move on,if na u die ur hubby would ve banged another lady long time again,so pls try n erase his love and welcome the living!
ReplyDeleteYeye dey smell. You cnt marry nw bcos ur husband died nt long ago but u cn get laid by another man? If u still love ur husband you won't let another man see ur underwear nt to talk of sex. Abegi,save that crap o
ReplyDeleteU gave your body to him not becos you love him maybe becos of money or whatever. Nonsense.
ReplyDeleteCan you read she? did she say it's because of money.saw someone in pain and you are here juguin
DeleteU dont even understand where shes going. Why must she giv out sex to someone he has no feelings for or love.? Nothing goes for nothing
Deletetalk to him nd mk him undastnd u hvnt fully gotten over ur late hubby, I tink he will definitely undastnd hw it feels to b a widow at such a young age. nd pls don't rush tinz ok.
ReplyDeleteMarry him and be happy again if he loves you truly. Let the dead rest in peace okay..... Good luck
ReplyDeleteHonestly we ladies like putting ourselves in bondage,u are so free to marry anybody so far the other partner is died,the Holy books confirms that,u still been in love with a dead man at the age of 25,my dear u need to move on,if na u die ur hubby would ve banged another lady long time again,so pls try n erase his love and welcome the living!
ReplyDeleteWen d dead men leaves, d living men should rise, hope u knw wht i mean, he has gone 2 d eternal home already,
ReplyDeleteit not easy to forget someone u've loved for so long,pls keep d guy close to u and try to explain to him am sure he will understand, but d fact can never be change ur hubby has gone far and he's not coming back,sorry.
ReplyDeleteYou should have not had sex with him,after he has tasted you and knw hw sweet you are,though you will have to remarry but space should be at least 2-3years.bcos if it is too early people will be suspecting both of you as d murderer of ur late husband. Let ur friend knw dat.
ReplyDeleteYou my dear are a survivor, a victor, a beautiful strong woman....
ReplyDeleteIt is normal the way you are feeling, your hubby died during your honeymoon year, the love was still fresh, new and alive....
However, it has happened, he is gone, to be no more, the living and the dead must never meet, you must allow him to rest in peace, you must set him free........the marriage vows said, till death do us part, he is gone, dead......you my dear are alive and well......
Mourn him and then allow yourself to live.........stop punishing yourself for him being dead while you are trying to move on......stop wallowing in blame........he won't want you to remain broken because he is gone, he won't want you to lay down and die because he died........that is his own destiny, not yours.....he is in a better place, he does not need your tears, he'll prefer you to be happy and to live on........on and in happiness.
It's not necessary that you marry right away, if you are not ready, but remember that you are not dead, you are still young and healthy..........you see sweetie, life must go on.......
Regarding this your man friend, We don't blame you for sleeping with him, you were lonely and he comforted you, don't hate him and don't hate yourself, tell him the truth, let him know that you are simply not ready, but you don't need to end the friendship with him, if he wants to wait, let him.......be honest with him.........the love he has for you will make him understand........please be gentle with him....
We pray for you to have peace, We pray The Lord comfort you, We pray for joy to once again find you, We pray that soon and very soon your heart is opened again to receive happiness.........God bless you!
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Thanks Admin for that wonderful advice, I don't know why people are insulting her,please dear move on with your life, open your heart to love again
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