I have said it before and will continue to say it - if you wanna have sex, have sex. Don't have sex because a man has promised to marry you. Nowadays ladies go about sounding it to our ears that boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is for kids, not for them, that they want a 'serious relationship' that must lead to marriage. And I want to ask, what is a serious relationship? What would you think will be my reply if am not ready for marriage but a lady I admire so much insists we must have a 'serious relationship'? Or do ladies think a man they have introduced to their families, won't dump them after having sex? Smart guys will always agree to your 'serious relationship' philosophy and immediately disappear after eating some cookies.
Someone whispered marriage to the ears of my ex-girlfiend years back which she left. That whisperer didn't marry her eventually. Do you think I wouldn't want to do what that guy who stole my girlfriend did to actually see if it works? Ladies should be alert. A smart and intelligent lady should know when some whisperers wanna get some cookies using the "I want to marry you" bullshit. It is unfair if the society continue to look down on unmarried ladies as dregs. We shouldn't force our daughters and sisters into abusive homes.On the other hand, a guy who came just for the cookies may stick around after the sex. We have seen guys who confessed about lying to have sex, but discovered how amazing the ladies were and decided that marriage was best. You cannot truly know the hearts of men, because nowadays people are easily deceived, convinced and influenced. But in everything, the decision to have sex with a whisperer is yours. You didn't have sex because you were desperate for marriage, or you were pressured by family or society - you had sex because you wanted to. You don't feel used or think you are a victim, you did it because you felt it was the right thing to do while it lasted. It was your decision and you don't need to blame it on anybody, not even the society. He came, he lied and he walked away - but you were honest...thats okay, you didnt do it because you were promised marriage.
Goodluck.
Chukwuemeka Ekenaka
I'm looking forward to the day people would quit using that line: "he/she used and dumped me." Sex is something to be had because one wants to, not because they were lured into doing it. Only kids are deceived into having unwanted sex, not grown ass adults. Smh
ReplyDeleteThe baseline is most people male and female want sex ab initio, in fact many ladies don't think they can keep a relationship without sex. Many ladies are even addicted to sex sef, and many of them are so gullible. Women generally are emotional about sex but men, especially the casanovas care less. Some will call it blaming the victim, but I think the woman in such case should accept equal responsibility except she wasnt raped. No one can deceive you without your own consent.
ReplyDeletehe true fact is this. alot of ladies start calling their guys my fiance. some used the word (Husband) to their guy who just proposed to her in a bedroom just bcos they have started having sex. Ladies you have to open ur eyes and be wise. Never call a guy ur fiance if u still keep a secret relationship together.
ReplyDeleteAccountability... women should be responsible for their actions and stop looking for who to blame.
ReplyDeleteactually what happen is that our girls like sex too much. But as a girl, they want to win it all. That is giving the sex to not just a man, but a man who will marry them. in that case, they enjoy the sex and also hold their would be husband. But how are they sure that the man will eventually marry them? Just the same question you ask yourself each time you want to go to sleep, how sure are u to wake up the next day? But you just have to sleep and leave the rest to the being who gives his children sleep. may i put it to you that the girl who disvirgined me is ten yrs older than me. Now, did i promise her marriage? Nop. If only our girls can be honest, and tell us they enjoy sex as much as we guys. And also stop the WIN IT ALL mentality.
ReplyDeleteMy cousin says, Sex b4 marriage is like a saving account. The moment you wildraw, you loose interest. Ladies pls keep your wine till the appointed time.
ReplyDeletef girls request for money from men, they should not complain becos most men want free sex. some men will open their chikini mouth and tell you “we both have nothing to loose”. Any girl that give a man that you are not married to money, is a fool, becos he will 419 you sexually and emotionally.
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